Reality Check Counseling

One of the commonalities in abusive relationships is the quick decent into marriage or a live-in situation. It may not ever be too soon to "think" about taking these steps, but it is definitely too soon to do it if everyone around you is telling you to slow down. What's the hurry? If you are rushing into the future, you often miss the signs in the present and always forget about the experiences of the past.

Truthfully, love is a terrible reason to engage in a contract. Sounds radical, but it clouds your judgment. If you really want to be with someone "forever," it is more likely to happen if you slow down a little. How many people have you heard of who say, "I wish I'd taken it a little slower." Now, how many say, "I wish we hadn't had such a long engagement."

Exactly.